Posted in life, Women

The Women Club

The world has come a long way. And then it hasn’t. In terms of war, global poverty, and economic tensions they all follow history before them in their respective country. In terms of how people are treated, including women and children it has not improved in many places. But, it is an era in which these groups have a voice that they may never have had before. It’s a truth that is not always universally acknowledged that a good woman will not be as important as the man she marries unless she fights hard for herself.

As women, we no doubt have many roles. Multiple personalities at times. Sure the feminists made Barbie have curves and different skin color, but what about real people? For others, the pain is still there no matter what filter or edit they use on Instagram. What kind of pain? The pain of knowing they will never be good enough. Never be able to carry on with their male coworkers, because the struggle is not the same for them. Girl clubs are either inclusive or not, there is no in between. And oftentimes, some women are not sure if they fit into the feminist club or the feminism club.

It’s not wrong to be unsure about either. I call myself a feminist, but I don’t know if I am most days. I’m not doing any sort of protesting, not standing up for my gender, and not calling out any males that don’t treat women as they should be treated. But, I have been harassed on the street. This seems to be a common phenomenon that women everywhere have been experiencing for years. Recently, more people are making videos of it though and putting it online where it goes viral and sparks a conversation. But, nothing happens. Because what people don’t see in all their determination to show people the slimy guys on the streets is that slimy guys do not care. The men that do see these videos are the so-called “good” guys or those that have been blessed with a great woman in their life to change their prior perspectives. A welcome relief obviously. So, it continues on. Amongst different cultures, men lead the pack and the head of the family. If he has an opinion on your dress, you will take it. This is not everywhere, but what I’m trying to say is that the Alpha Male is getting bigger as we move into the new year. For reasons related to politics and how race led to a boiling point for some.

Males are needed in society, sure. But, we as women still need to be conscious of where we stand when it comes to men at the center of this society. They don’t have to rule everything. As said numerous times over there needs to be more women in STEM, more women in agriculture, more women in biotechnology, more women in ocean science, more women in principal positions (at schools and corporations), and more women as heads in the music and entertainment industries. So a long way to go. It starts as early as middle school for an interest in these subjects to take place. Of course, this requires a change in educational objectives and core standards which are improving in many places already.

So, my ladies out there. You are worth it. You should always do your best, but know that if you can do better than your best than do it. Keep walking and do not engage with those that call out to you on the street. You don’t need to be viral right now, you need to be stronger.

So, today is Martin Luther King Jr. Day by the way. It’s my favorite day in the beginning of the year (yes better than Valentine’s Day) because it is dedicated to a person that fought for people. For human rights, for racial equality and for the chance to give his children a future that does not include the ‘n’ word slurred to them. That lets women and children, black and whites, think about themselves in America and why they deserve to be American just as much as anyone else.

So, yes. You deserve to be alive. If you made it all the way down here, then I thank you and I ask that you be happy in this moment.


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Posted in changes

Doing Something Different

Alright, well it is a new year so I guess that means changing things. In what way? Not really sure yet, but trying to get there slowly. Well, first off I have A LOT of books I want to read this year as well as movies I haven’t seen yet that I want to see. More than that, I plan to apply to different jobs once I get my resume and cover letter organized and critiqued a few times. It’s time to think about how I want to view myself in a few years or down the road.

A friend of mine got engaged last year and her wedding is in the Spring. It’s so crazy to think about, but it’s really happening. I’m thinking more school and more fun before I go there though. Also, today is National Hugging Day and supposedly we should all be happy. Not just today, but everyday. Hug someone. This is kind of crazy for me to be endorsing because as my family and friends would know, I am no fan of hugs. But, sometimes you just need a moment to grab a hold of a little love. It’s like assurance that it will all be ok, maybe not today or tomorrow but at least in that moment know that’s it’s ok to smile. Just a thought.

I mean to put posts out on Sunday’s. So, today feels like Sunday even though I know it’s Monday and it’s MLK day. Speaking of that, was Dr. Kings’s dream realized? Was it fulfilled in the way he thought it would be? I certainly think so. We take for granted the fact that we can go everywhere, there are no Jim Crow laws and no one is forced to do something they do not want to (well, ok this might be an exaggeration because kids have to go to school and such but you know what I mean). Yes, unfortunately in some places discrimination does exist. It can tear friendships, families, and communities apart. Society knows this, but still there are those who are stubborn in their beliefs. Still, we have come a long way. It would seem that people from all backgrounds respect the legacy of Dr. King and what he stood for. It was something that defined a generation and put an end to a tragic time in America’s history.

I want to keep to this, maybe I’ll post something tomorrow. The theme for this week is: Understanding why society changes the way it does in order to adapt to changing leaders. Or, whatever I decide to write about.