People are not always human. Humans are not always people.
We like to define and categorize each other into cute little boxes. It’s stimulating to have a name for something, a blueprint to our illnesses that we can mindmap. Whether this works out or not is mostly up to us, but also the world and whether it accepts who we choose to be.
If you are struggling to find the reasons to be happy, I want you to try these five things:
What are you doing these days that you wish you could do more of? Is it reading? Is is exercising? Is it talking to your family more? Less time indoors, more time outdoors? It’s always the same. There’s never enough time, or so we like to believe when we schedule ourselves within the confines of a regular 24-hour day.
You are probably out of time. You probably just rushing to read this so you can do the next boring thing you have to do. No, you have time. You always do. It’s in our heads that there is not enough time. The great fear is that we are not spending our time wisely, that we are not doing things that are worthy of “time.” However, this undermines what is valuable: You. You may know this or you may just read this blankly knowing that the time for reading is short anyway.
Sometimes you might get one of those days where you don’t want to do anything. That’s ok, as long as you are able to remind yourself to take time to just get out. To do something and let yourself feel happy today.
Those days where you would much rather stay all day in bed are the days you need to get up the most. The days when you would much rather ignore all the responsibilities head on by just ignoring them. No one always wants to do all the things they have to, but we still tell ourselves that if we don’t we have somehow failed the day. The day is only a fail if you let yourself believe it to be. It might be the hardest thing to do in the present moment, but try to make yourself try to loosen up. Get yourself out of bed and do at least one thing that leaves you not feeling like a sack by the end of the day. It’s so easy to say that we’ll do this or that but then do nothing at all. The simple things are always the most comfortable to us aren’t they (admitting that can take some work though).
Alright, so say you get out of bed. But, it’s now 12 pm. Never mind breakfast, do a good lunch. It rains instead so you wait it out and decide it’s fine. Time rolls by, it’s now 2 pm. Then 4 pm. Then you know, you either stay or go. There has to be a better way than this is what you’re thinking. But, honestly, the weather shouldn’t be stopping you. If you can get up, wash up and change then you’re on the right step. Your next step would be to actually go outside and get out. It feels great. It reminds you that staying inside only makes things worse. Yeah, most days this is not as easy task as it might sound. I completely get that. There’s no harm in trying though.
Every day is a new adventure if you let it be and if you allow yourself to explore something new each day. Yeah, maybe your aren’t living anywhere exciting but who cares? You can find something amazing in every day if you really want to.
Never give up on the day ahead when it hasn’t even started yet. Mess up today, start again tomorrow. Stay positive no matter what.
It seems we have slipped into February. The short month that feels like the longest month. That time when you may or not be feeling anxious about the days ahead and the time when you wondering what it would be like to live in a more tropical location (unless you already do, then continue with your lush lifestyle, friend!). Regardless, if you’re in North America it’s winter. And it’s generally a gloomy time unless you are some kind of expert at creating the sunshine and warm weather. Since you are not, however, there is no reason to leave you in suspense of when old man winter will finally rear his head. The answer is hopefully shortly because global warming.
There are plenty of ways that people tell one to combat the winter blues. Some tell you to de-stress, unplug, go outside, then promptly go back inside because it is cold. Well, I’m not trying to be a smart lifestyle article here and there will be no fancy slideshows of Getty images of food, but there will be advice.
First of all. Buy Christmas lights and put them up. It doesn’t matter that its Feb. now and all the lights are gone or even that you don’t celebrate the holiday, just that lights are probably on clearance somewhere and Stranger Things was probably onto something by having communication through the lights. Plus they will bring a smile to your face. If anyone asks and interrupts you while you answer to laugh at you, say you’re celebrating life and that will make them shut up.
Second, you need to read books. Yeah yeah yeah, people say they read in the summer only. But why not in the winter? I find I actually read more in the winter, not always but if there are too many things happening in the summer months I won’t get past one large book and a few smaller books. Which is rather disappointing. So read. I’m going to include audiobooks too, but only for some books in which the author is reading the book. Get a library card and use that sucker!
Thirdly (I actually kind of hate that word, sounds kind of snooty eighteenth century but it is typed so moving on), make something. With you hands and something that you can be proud of. Enough scrolling through Pinterest or Instagram looking at all the things you wish you could make. Who says you can’t? It can be anything. Find a way to get the tools if you have to. Make a cabinet. Bake a cake. Build a set for your tv, and cook something you want to instead of just watching that TasteMade clip again and again. You’re creative and you have the ability to make something great. So do it! (Now don’t be lazy and say buying the tools is too much work and give up).
Try to watch tv as little as possible. As little news as possible and as much comedy as possible. Stay close to those that bring you up and away from those that bring you down. What’s the point in wasting energy like that? Do your nails, go shopping, listen to your favourite music and laugh about the stupid things. All things that can be achieved. And all things that you are capable of. Let’s take on the blues together and bring in the sunshine again.
It would seem that we have found ourselves near the end of January. By, now you are well engrossed into your daily life. Fully invested in avoidance of all new years goals. Looking forward to the year ahead or at least prepping for tax season.
I want this to be the year of great travel. The year that I stop searching for that one “thing” and just do something. Finally, conquer myself into a decent career and live fairly profitably. Feel like I am able to achieve what I have been talking about for years now. These are the things that I will accomplish this year. Is it too lofty? Is it to earnest? Either way, its happening and I am making sure to follow through on that. Because I am the holder of my own dreams. No one else.
What about you? What amazing and extraordinary things are you aiming for this year? New job? New love? New city? Whatever it be, I hope it gives you life.
So, no loud ramblings here. Just a friendly reminder that today is over yes, but the year has only just begun. Have you started a new job but can’t leave it even though you hate it? Find the things that give you joy and one day you will find the strength to leave that job or place because you found something greater than that. When you realize what your passions are you will be so much more thankful for the life you have been given.
You only have one life, live it happily. Let’s live vicariously through one another’s adventures, whether those be dull or out of this world. You got this.